This is your new blog post. Click here and start typing, or drag in elements from the top bar. Add Comment Finding Calmness in your Closet 12/11/2011
1) Calming Colors: Always choose clothes in the colors you are most comfortable with. Colors that also ‘go’ with many of the other clothes in your closet I I’m not talking basic black here. I’m saying cool greens and blues, soft pinks, and quiet yellows.- colors that calm you the minute you see them. Yes, these colors will probably ‘go’ with your basic neutral colors of your wardrobe, as well. If you really want to be low maintenance and organized hand like colors together in your closet for easy visual and easy grab and go. 2) Visual Appeal : Patterns and textures that make you feel ‘busy, confused, or itchy’ are never good choices. Also if you feel like you really stand out unless this is your goal steer clear. You want clothes that will set the stage for a stress free life. Clothes that make you uncomfortable or awkward before you even leave the house will insure you to have a very unpleasant evening or event. 3) Size- Really Matters: Wear clothes that fit. don’t be someone your not. You’ll spend your day pulling and tugging at hemlines, straps, your neckline and if course closing buttons. What fun is that? On the other side if you choose to hide yourself in your over sized clothes, your living in a mobile cave. Putting a shell around yourself and radiating misery. That is no you! 4) Practical is What Practical does. Going to the gym? For heck sake don’t stop off at the supermarket this will only distract others but you’ll get a nasty chill. If you have to really think if an outfit is appropriate or ‘right’ it probably isn’t. You’ll be worrying about your choice instead of enjoying yourself. 5) Enough is Enough already: Layering on the jewelry or the accessories can weigh you down, have you fussing with the necklace in your soup, and generally making you feel bad. Bottom line here is dress just for yourself then the crowd. True, this is extremely hard to shallow and is very bad karma for the people who market clothes. But geesh, you’re the one wearing and caring for the clothes not them. Truly any ordinary outfit you feel good in, will look fabulous when you have a brilliant sincere smile on your face and a calm twinkle in your eyes. Stress free confidence is the ultimate goal here. Please leave a comment, click like for Facebook and click twitter for tweeting. Be your own best friend during the holidays, enjoy being alone. There are a large number of us who will be spending the holidays alone, either by choice or by chance. No matter what the reason, this will add to the stress the holiday season already has incurred. You can tolerate the probing questions concerning why you are spending your holidays alone. You can choose to share your time with friends if you want to, you are free to do, as you like. You may even avoid or ignore the holiday fanfare altogether. However, it still will leave an empty spot within you. Why is this? It is because we are social animals who enjoy the “herd” activities. You can allow yourself to spend these precious times nurturing yourself. Do things that give you comfort and calm. You can take a long tub bath, lotion your feet, curl up on the soft blanket with a special book, or a marathon old movie watching, even try perhaps marathon sports programs, these suggestions will calm and relax you. Believe me these things really do feel great. Be grateful for the small stuff. You owe it to yourself to write out a list of everything you are grateful for, no matter how common it is, add this to your journal and refer back to it often especially when you feel a bit sad. Perhaps you want to have a few holiday cards displayed, or small ornaments and pictures that will bring a small touch of festivity to your space, do what ever feels comfortable for YOU!! As ordinary people, we know we are living busy! If you slow down enough to ask yourself why, you may not like the answers. Are you just doing busy work? The equivalent of moving one pile of dirt to another spot? Are you procrastinating and afraid of getting something done because you have a fear associated with that something? Are you justifying something to someone? As in “ see I’m too busy to commit to a project or event". Are you trying to control an issue, situation or someone? Are you afraid of succeeding and are you allowing yourself to sabotage your success. I point out these questions as ideas for you to ponder and think about. Now you have a point of reference, so you can address the problem or problems you might have. Once you “see” the problem you can start to resolve it. Please feel free to comment or share your stories. Ten Simple Truths For You to Consider!! 11/24/2011
These truths will dissolve your depression! Truth 1) A smile from you can provide happiness to anyone, even if they don’t like you. Truth 2) You mean the world to someone. Truth 3) At least 15 people in the world love you in some way. Truth 4) You are special and unique. There’s no other person like you. Truth 5) When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good can come of it, always. Truth 6) When you think the world has turned its back on you, take another look around, someone is truly wishing you love and wellness. Truth 7) There are at least two people in this whole world for whom you would die, and they would for you. You know how to sincerely love… and that is a gift from the Divine. Truth 8) Every night, someone thinks about you before they go to sleep. Truth 9) The only reason anyone would ever dislike you is that they envy you and want to be just like you. Truth 10) Someone, loves you, and you’re not even conscious of it. These Simple Truths For You to Consider!! The variety of comfort foods range from hot soups and stews to chocolate ice cream and cakes. We eat these foods to help make us feel better, warm our insides and our hearts on cold sad days. It gives us a reason to sit down and slow down, and heck it tastes good too! Usually these comfort foods are eaten during times of stress or depression of both. ( Bury your face in a quart of chocolate Ice cream is better then burying your face under the bed covers for several days). You might add!! I agree comfort foods are great, but in moderation, yes, I’m a spoil sport!! You’ll only stress your waist line with the over eating. Comfort foods are great self-rewards too. When you have tolerated or put up with a family member, co- worker, even just finished a project or finished taking that last test. Self rewards are frosting on the cake , no pun intended! Consider the food as truly a comfort.. Not something you feel guilty about a little later on. Allow your self to sample the goodies, you deserve them!! Please I would like your stories and input, please comment on this blog!! It’s your blog too!!! Comfort Foods or Don’t Stress the Good Stuff!! What Reasons do you have for Anxiety? 11/16/2011
We always discount our anxiety as okay ' goes with the job', where we live, the way we were brought up, all these remembrances. We all have ideas, reasons, coping mechanisms and just because: Because I'm fat. Because I'm tall. Because I have big feet. Because I'm uncoordinated. Because I'm too young. Because I'm too old. The list goes on and on! These reasons and because are excuses plain and simple. We create excuses to avoid confrontation. We create excuses to justify not doing something. But we feel anxiety and stressful doing this. The core truth, we think it will be 'easier' not to do something or say something. The other side of the anxiety coin is we will say yes, Yes to almost everything. It's 'easier' than to confront or stand up to someone or project our true views or desires. Okay, so why do we think it is 'easier'? Reprogramming your Anxiety is easy once you know how! Nothing like getting totally stressed out before you even get out of bed in the morning. The loud very annoying buzz sound that your alarm clock makes can jangle your nerves as well as your ears. Besides making us move quickly, ( some of us don't move as quickly as we did when we were younger). You do have many choices now a days. There is still the windup bell ringing, ear stressing, teeth clinching alarm clocks. The buzzer/tone alarms that have a graduated tone. they go from semi loud to 100 decibels in a few seconds. This is ok if you have to have a loud alarm clock from years of abuse to your ears. Seriously, for a more pleasant way to wake up in the morning or after a much deserved nap, get an alarm clock that will play your favorite CD, at a volume you can really control. Better still and something I use myself. Is an alarm clock that offers nature sounds. These have a variety of choices. Mountain stream, rain forest birds, ocean waves, thunderstorm, and spring rain. You will find that you will start your day a whole lot less stressful and a lot happier. I also recommend the nature sound alarms for when you meditate, you can set them as timers as well. Hey, have your clock multitask for once. Please as always share your stories and comments. Alarm Clocks that will not 'Alarm" your Stress Reactors Candles and body butter scents are a great way to eliminate gift-giving stress! We all have gift giving challenges. What to give a female friend who is either a diabetic or on a diet to loose weight? This is your new blog post. Click here and start typing, or drag in elements from the top bar. Remember when you sat by the ocean watching the water flow up to the shore or splash around the rocks-- I remember cool mountain streams flowing slowly and gently over the rocks and moss. The sounds, sights and feelings of calm were wonderful. The clear cold water running over my bare feet, the soft velvety feeling of the green moss.. Oh the memories!! Visualizing and remembering the calm is great when you are using this during your daily meditation time. Another way to get these feelings of calm is to bring the out doors inside. There are several ways to accomplish this. Small water features with a pump inside, these run on electricity, they some times come with lights, but most have small smooth stones you can arrange for the full effect of the water sounds. Get a DVD with ocean sounds or mountain streams. This will give you a continuous visual and sound experience that will calm you almost instantly. These DVD's also have quiet music as well as the nature sounds. If you are fortunate enough to have a park or a resort close to were you live they may have water features. By all means go and have a picnic or bring a favorite book. Always share these times with your children, partner or a friend. Calming relaxing moments that are shared mean so much more and build wonderful memories. This is all part of your allowing yourself to self- nurture. Recharging you internal "energy" and filling your 'giving cup'. please share your stories and comments. Water Features for inside and outside the house that relieve stress | AuthorI'm a ex-stressaholic. I have found ways to conquer stress naturally. ArchivesJanuary 2012 CategoriesAll |
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