Most people seem to have no problem-managing people. They learn this from college classes, management workshops or on the job experiences.
You know how to be diplomatic, co-operative and insightful to the needs of the people you must lead.
However, you fall short of the skills in how to manage yourself. Your stress levels are very high and your self-confidence is quite low.
The old phrase “do as I say not as I do” holds true here. You tend to stress out because you want to appear perfect in the sight of others, but you just cannot seem to get yourself managed were you feel comfortable. Probably you get to work hour’s earlier then other people and leave later or even bring work home. Yet, you want to give the impression that you have great time management skills.
You also want to give the impression that you are accessible, while actually you are rushed and not present for people.
This all stems from your inability to manage yourself. Stress adds to this inability.
Once you allow yourself to be, open to the opportunities to de-stress and self-nurture by using natural solutions your self-management increases and your ability to manage others will be much more effective.
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What is the price of your body fuel at breakfast?
With the price of fuel for your car going up every day, you are aware of the fuel quality you put in your car to get you from point A to Point B. So why do you cut corners on the fuel you put in your body.
Your body is meant to last longer then 3 to 5 years, the time a good car is to last, (or until it is paid for)!
Are you loading up on caffeine and sugar, when you stop for those 16 ounces of coffee and a large glazed donut for your breakfast, as your drive to work? This type of breakfast is very poor quality fuel for your body and adds a great deal of stress to it as well.
You know that you have to keep pumping in more caffeine and sugar just to keep going through the morning or you will just fizzle out altogether. This type of routine will leave you jittery, tense and very irritable. You will notice you are even more vulnerable to stressful feelings as well.
This is the stress cycle.
On the other hand skipping breakfast altogether is monumentally worse. Why do you want to start a perfectly great day at a distinct disadvantage? You should not make yourself feel empty inside.
This only opens you to eating more poor quality fuel.
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While most people are not as critical of themselves as you might think. The opposite is true. If you are one of those people who secretly has low self esteem, you can probably answer my question easily. What are you tolerating in yourself, your weight, your lifestyle, your finances, your education, your job, or your relationships? All this tolerating will needless create stress.
You must take the plunge, pull the self-esteem from within yourself, stop tolerating, and start improving. The best investment of your time, money and energy is in you. Start now to take control of this stress and get the results you want and need. You have to live with yourself. Be your own best friend, a pure and natural solution.
In relationships, usually people confuse tolerating and compromising.
To set the confusion straight, tolerating causes stress to the person tolerating a problem or situation. On the other hand compromising is a win-win for both people involved and there is very little stress created.
Now, what are you tolerating and why? Given that the relationship is important to you, you want to do the right thing or feel good. So why are you stressing your self by tolerating something?
Usually the answer is that you are fearful of the confrontation or perhaps hurting the other person’s feelings.
Consider this, the fear of confrontation must be faced so you can feel better and get the problem solved.
If you are worried about hurt feelings, consider your own feelings first. You are the one that will have the most hurt for the longest time.
The best way to get the relationship on a better track is to calmly talk about the problems and formulate a compromise.
This solution will take time and effort, but if the relationship is worth it, it is effort well invested.
Thinking things out, talking about it and coming to a mutual agreement in a calm attitude is natural and healthy.
Most people who work an 8-5 job tolerate their job. While it is true that the paycheck is most important, the stress that is associated with the job is so high that the emotional pain is rarely compensated by the paycheck.
The “politics” or discontentment that the job generates adds to the stress.
The only recourse people have is to tolerate their work place and the work itself. They have an unspoken attitude of clock in at exactly 8 am and clock out exactly 5pm, no more no less. Their favorite phrase for all the tolerating is “at least I have a job”, and they leave it at that. There is no incentive or purpose in their work. This of course adds to the stress.
My advice is to enjoy your job. Do the best you can by doing you best. Keep you options always open, and update your resume monthly. Take the time to learn new things even if you think they will not be used or encouraged at your present job. Adding new skills to your resume makes you marketable, no matter what the job market looks like.
Some people have even considered the alternative of going into business for themselves and became quite successful. These ideas will spark enthusiasm and decrease stress.
Be your own best friend during the holidays, enjoy being alone.
There are a large number of us who will be spending the holidays alone, either by choice or by chance.
No matter what the reason, this will add to the stress the holiday season already has incurred.
You can tolerate the probing questions concerning why you are spending your holidays alone. You can choose to share your time with friends if you want to, you are free to do, as you like.
You may even avoid or ignore the holiday fanfare altogether. However, it still will leave an empty spot within you.
Why is this? It is because we are social animals who enjoy the “herd” activities.
You can allow yourself to spend these precious times nurturing yourself. Do things that give you comfort and calm. You can take a long tub bath, lotion your feet, curl up on the soft blanket with a special book, or a marathon old movie watching, even try perhaps marathon sports programs, these suggestions will calm and relax you. Believe me these things really do feel great.
Be grateful for the small stuff. You owe it to yourself to write out a list of everything you are grateful for, no matter how common it is, add this to your journal and refer back to it often especially when you feel a bit sad.
Perhaps you want to have a few holiday cards displayed, or small ornaments and pictures that will bring a small touch of festivity to your space, do what ever feels comfortable for YOU!!
As ordinary people, we know we are living busy! If you slow down enough to ask yourself why, you may not like the answers.
Are you just doing busy work? The equivalent of moving one pile of dirt to another spot?
Are you procrastinating and afraid of getting something done because you have a fear associated with that something?
Are you justifying something to someone? As in “ see I’m too busy to commit to a project or event".
Are you trying to control an issue, situation or someone?
Are you afraid of succeeding and are you allowing yourself to sabotage your success.
I point out these questions as ideas for you to ponder and think about.
Now you have a point of reference, so you can address the problem or problems you might have. Once you “see” the problem you can start to resolve it.
Please feel free to comment or share your stories.
These truths will dissolve your depression!
Truth 1) A smile from you can provide happiness to anyone, even if they don’t like you.
Truth 2) You mean the world to someone.
Truth 3) At least 15 people in the world love you in some way.
Truth 4) You are special and unique. There’s no other person like you.
Truth 5) When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good can come of it, always.
Truth 6) When you think the world has turned its back on you, take another look around, someone is truly wishing you love and wellness.
Truth 7) There are at least two people in this whole world for whom you would die, and they would for you. You know how to sincerely love… and that is a gift from the Divine.
Truth 8) Every night, someone thinks about you before they go to sleep.
Truth 9) The only reason anyone would ever dislike you is that they envy you and want to be just like you.
Truth 10) Someone, loves you, and you’re not even conscious of it.
These Simple Truths For You to Consider!!
The variety of comfort foods range from hot soups and stews to chocolate ice cream and cakes.
We eat these foods to help make us feel better, warm our insides and our hearts on cold sad days. It gives us a reason to sit down and slow down, and heck it tastes good too!
Usually these comfort foods are eaten during times of stress or depression of both. ( Bury your face in a quart of chocolate Ice cream is better then burying your face under the bed covers for several days). You might add!!
I agree comfort foods are great, but in moderation, yes, I’m a spoil sport!! You’ll only stress your waist line with the over eating.
Comfort foods are great self-rewards too. When you have tolerated or put up with a family member, co- worker, even just finished a project or finished taking that last test. Self rewards are frosting on the cake , no pun intended!
Consider the food as truly a comfort.. Not something you feel guilty about a little later on.
Allow your self to sample the goodies, you deserve them!!
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Comfort Foods or Don’t Stress the Good Stuff!!
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